Have you ever lost it in the workplace? A colleague or manager says or does something and that red mist descends over you. You then say or do something that you later regret, but at the time it is almost like you become a different person, someone who you don’t recognise as being yourself and certainly your colleagues will not recognise.
If you can relate to the above scenario, there’s a good chance that in such a situation, your chimp took over! The Chimp Paradox is a best selling book and self-management principle by Dr. Steve Peters. Such eminent figures as Steven Gerrard and Sir Chris Hoy credit Peters and his theory for a huge part in their success. They have both worked with Peters at an individual level and in 2015, Roy Hodgson famously invited Peters to work with the England squad.
In his book, Dr. Peters talks about the fact that our brains can be divided into district regions.
• The Limbic or Chimp region that controls our emotions and provides emotional responses to the external world.
• The human region that seeks to rationalize our experiences in the external world.
• The computer region, which seeks to run systems, and processes that simplify our lives by effectively automate our responses to certain situations, based on how we responded to those situations previously.
In reality, chimps are very aggressive animals. They are faster and stronger than humans are and so it is with our brains. If we allow our chimp to take over, it will wreak havoc, as its responses are primal, emotional and irrational. In the wild chimps are concerned with 2 main things. Survival and propagation of the species. Our inner chimp gives us defence mechanisms that are essential, but not always necessary. Herein lies the paradox; we need our chimp, but only some of the time.
How do you know when your chimp is in charge?
Ask yourself the following questions when dealing with people or situations that make you feel uncomfortable.
• Do I want to be having these thoughts?
• Do I want to be having these emotions?
• Do I want to behave in this way?
If the answer is “no” to any or all of these questions, there is a good chance your simian is in control.
Dealing with your chimp.
Dr. Peters (quite rightly) points out that you should not attempt to tackle your chimp head on. In a battle between a chimp and an unarmed human, the chimp would win easily. The results for the human would be bloody and bruising, possibly even fatal. Dr. Peter’s suggest the following strategy to deal with your chimp.
Dr. Peters also makes the following points that are worth considering here.
• Chimps change behaviour when their old behaviours are ineffective. A chimp will learn very quickly that trying to take bananas from a tree full of poisonous spiders is a painful experience. As humans, we need to take responsibility for changing ineffective behaviours, thoughts and feelings. We have evolved to a higher mental and emotional plan than our primate ancestors have!
• Chimps do not carry feelings of guilt. Accept that every now and again your chimp will play up. If it does and you lose control of it, accept that it has happened, learn from the situation and move on. Learn how to control your chimp in similar situations in the future.
• You are not responsible for the nature of your chimp. Our chimp brain is genetically inherited. You are however, responsible for the actions of your chimp.
• In any situation, there is a stimulus and a range of possible responses. You may not be able to control the stimulus, but you can and should control your response.
Good luck in feeding your chimp!